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Corruption Starts at an Early Age…

5 Mar

In Indonesia, corruption is a major problem. People are busy trying to find an effective solution to stop corruption in the “higher level” such as in the government or in big companies. However, not many people realise that corruption starts from an early age due to lack of education from the environment or within the family.

My mother remembered that once she saw a young boy, about 8 years old, riding a motorcycle – without his helmet on, and when the police stopped him, he quickly grabbed some money to bribe the policeman. What went through my mother’s mind were two things = why did his parents let him drive that motorcycle – without a helmet, and who taught him to bribe at such an early age?

Cheating at school is also something that could lead to corruption. So it’s not only in the government or in big companies. Even having a fake drivers licence is a form of cheating which is similar to corruption. If Indonesia wants to stop corruption, we should stop just looking from the top, but start concentrating on problems at the bottom as well. We should look into our bad habits. Now, corruption is a part of our culture. It is that bad. Please don’t teach children how to cheat, teach them how to work hard, teach them how to do their work properly. No matter how much of a small deal we cheat, it can lead to behaviour which can disadvantage so many other people.

Alexia

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Domestic Violence – Those Who Do The Punching Are Those Who Have Problems

24 Feb

Domestic violence

Today I read an online article about a housewife who was constantly beaten up by her own husband, just because she failed to “serve” her husband the way he wanted her to. According to this housewife, ever since they got married in 2000, her husband demanded that he should be treated like a king every day. If his wishes are not granted, the consequences were heavy. In the article I read, the wife experienced heavy beating for 12 hours.

Domestic violence happens everywhere, and happens a lot more than we think. From my point of view, this woman’s husband has an “illness” that is difficult to cure… maybe extreme narcissism. Over the top narcissism – maybe because he has problems himself. Maybe during his childhood, he didn’t receive enough attention, therefore when he stepped into adulthood, he demanded overwhelming attention… just maybe… However, a husband who beats up his wife constantly like that, especially the ones who demand to be treated like a king definitely have some sort of mental/psychological disorder. Maybe when he was younger, he was also abused.

What I’ve been trying to convey is.. people who hurt other people like that want to bring down other people in order to feel better about themselves – when in truth, all humans are the same in the eyes of God. Would the husband be happy if was in his wife’s shoes? Do you think he’d be happy? Couples are supposed to love each other, if one beats the other one up, where is the love here?

Domestic violence can also happen between parent to child. Many kids have been brought up roughly – too roughly. Some experience sexual abuse, some get beaten up, and some receive verbal abuse. Parents need to understand the consequences of their actions, it will affect their childrens personalities in the future.

Those who are experiencing domestic violence.. get some help, find someone to talk to. You are not alone. To those who are abusive and violent – I believe in karma, and later on in your life, you will be feeling an even more painful “punch” in return. Go fix yourself. Ask yourself – Would I want to be treated that way?

Treat people the way you want to be treated.

Alexia.

Reference: The Jakarta Globe: Abused Wife Beaten for 12 Hours for Failing to Serve Husband Drink.

Rather Than Watching Too Much TV Shows, Let’s Read!

12 Jan

Let's read!

Lately, I’ve discovered peace when I read. Reading transports me to a whole new world, even though I don’t like reading fiction. I prefer reading non-fictional books, or something that is based on history. The most fictional books I read are the ones that are based on mythology and culture. I’ve been reading a lot lately, which is why I forgot to update this blog, hehe.

Ever since  technology started to develop rapidly, people, especially the younger generations would rather watch TV or play video games. Even when they read, they read magazines. I didn’t use to like reading, not until I got into tertiary education, then I started to appreciate reading. My university had a good library, big and complete.

Books are the window to the world and the source of knowledge. Rather than watching too much TV and playing video games, let’s read instead. Knowledge is a treasure. Accumulate it, soak it up, and don’t ever leave it behind.

Alexia.

Your Child Doesn’t Need to Get A+ For Everything..

6 Jan

You HAVE to be at the top of the class!!

I’m not a parent. I’m still young and I don’t have a child, so maybe a lot of parents out there might be annoyed by this post. But I just want to express my opinions. Ever since I was young, I’ve always met parents who force their children to get the highest marks at school. They don’t care how, their children needs to be at the top of the class. There is nothing wrong with parents wanting their children to get the best, but it’s not good to force them to do things that is beyond their abilities.

I’ve been lucky to have parents who never forced me to be at the top of the class. They only motivated me to do the best I could. If I could only get 70% for Information Technology, and I’ve already tried my best, they wouldn’t get angry. Every child has their own potential and ability. Even though my mathematics wasn’t that great, I had good marks for my history, social studies and art subjects, because that’s where my abilities are.

It’s even worse when parents compare their children to other children. “Why can’t you be like this kid, they got an A for this subject”. Big NO NO. Please remember that they have their own talents and potential. Parents who force their children to take the parent’s choice of university course are also annoying. Some parents prefer their children to take law, medicine, engineering (prestigious courses which creates more potential to earn more money) when their children wants to study photography, anthropology or literature. However there are also parents out there who know their children’s potential better than their children do.

The point is, motivate your children to do their best, but don’t force them to do things beyond their own ability. They’d be too overwhelmed. They don’t need to get A+ for everything. There has to be a balance between study and play. Find your child’s potential, and let them grow 🙂

Alexia.