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The Word ‘Narcissist’ is So Overused in Indonesia..

5 Jan

You're such a narcissist!

In Indonesia, the word ‘narcissist’ is overused. People here tease each other constantly with that word, even though in the past, the word ‘narcissist’ was not as easily used as it is now, and seen as something much more serious. Because people overuse the word, the meaning is gone, and the judgment of what a ‘narcissist’ is, is different to what it used to be.

What is a narcissist?

If someone is a narcissist, it means that they are sooo in love with themselves, they are too proud, and they admire themselves too much.

Where did the word ‘narcissist’ come from?

The word ‘narcissist’ came from Greek Mythology. A character named Narcissus fell in love with his own reflection in the water.

What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)?

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is when a person loves him/herself too much. They have a big sense of self-admiration, self-absorption, and very self-centred. They usually can’t see the effect that they are putting on other people. These people are highly arrogant, too confident and too self-assured. They always demand to be seen as the superior person. However, someone can be judged as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder when their behaviours are persistent and when they start disadvantaging other people. People who suffer from NPD usually experienced a bad childhood. Their parents neglected them, and did not value them. This causes the child to feel undervalued and have a low sense of self worth. The child grows up into a person who wants to cover up their sense of worth, so they create this whole new personality, demands people to love, respect, admire them, put them up in a pedestal. The effect is the complete opposite of what they experienced as a child.

A long time ago, before the word ‘narcissistic’ became a trend in Indonesia, the word ‘narcissistic’ was only be used for people who suffer NPD, or close to suffering NPD. Nowadays, almost everyone on Facebook is judged as being narcissistic.

What kind of traits are seen as ‘narcissistic’ traits nowadays?

1. Taking lots pictures of themselves constantly, and posting them all onto the internet. Or, displaying only photographs of themselves in their house/room.

2. Writing notes/statuses only about themselves.

3. Praising themselves constantly. “I’m so cute”, “I am the coolest of them all”, “If it wasn’t because of me, they wouldn’t be able to do anything.”

The word ‘narcissist’ is ssooooo overused. Even when someone takes a picture of themselves with a mobile phone, people would call it ‘narcissistic photo’. A long time ago, to tell someone that he/she is a narcissist, people would think a lot more and it wasn’t an easy thing to do. It was a tougher judgment. Only lately, the word is so commonly said because it’s a ‘trend’.

There’s nothing wrong with loving yourself, it’s actually important to love yourself. But when you admire yourself too much, then there’s definitely something wrong. Especially when you disadvantage other people because of it. I guess writing a status about yourself all the time on Facebook is not a narcissistic thing to do, unless the status is always about how awesome you are, putting sentences of self-pride and admiration all the time.. now that’s different. A real narcissist annoys other people.

If you would like to read more about narcissism, please click here.



Annoying Things People Do On the Internet

4 Jan

There's a lot of annoying people out there...

Internet, we can hardly live without it nowadays. Every day we use it for communication, work, socialising, but a lot of people use it to annoy each other. Many things that people do on the internet irritate and bother a lot of other internet users. There are also many articles written about “annoying things people do in the internet”, some I agree with, and some I don’t.

Things that are not-so-annoying:

1. Adding people you don’t even know in social networks. Most online articles say that this is one of the most annoying things people do online. I disagree, because you have the choice of rejecting the friendship if you want. But I’ve also met people through Facebook, and we end up being good friends, we help each other, we entertain each other, we share. Facebook is also made for networking. For artists, networking is very important. If you really don’t know the person who added you , and there are no friends in common, you can just reject the person, it’s not a big deal. However, if you want to add someone you don’t know, I think it’s best to explain why you want to add them in the personal message box provided. But please be careful when you make friends online, because it could be very dangerous. You don’t know whether the person you’ve just added was a fake profile or not (I will explain later).

2. People who have a loooot of online friends. It’s their business. Maybe they’re using social networks for networking, maybe a lot of people do know them, or maybe this person have lived in a several countries, who knows. Don’t judge by the amount of friends. Humans are allowed to make friends with whoever they want, and there’s no limit to it.

Now these are the more annoying ones!

1. Communicating with crude language and being very offensive in chatrooms, social networks, and online forums. Don’t talk crudely, don’t be offensive, unless you want to make yourself look bad in front of many people. Especially when you insult other countries, other religions/beliefs. Even insulting other people’s idols can be very annoying. Talking crudely and offensively can trigger cyberbullying, which has  been proven as a cause of teen depression and suicide. Be careful with what you say.

2. Creating viruses and spreading them. What’s wrong with you? Why do you want to ruin computers, even the ones owned by people you don’t even know? Have you got problems? Or are you just having fun? You’re definitely damaging other people.. financially and emotionally!

3. Hackers. Go away! We don’t like you! You can’t even respect privacy.

4. Scam online programs. We see advertisement about online programs that can earn you  a ridiculous amounts of money. The person who gets rich is the person who owns the program, and you’re all being scammed. There are some money making programs online which are legitimate, but there are also some liars out there who just steal your money. Believe me, been there done that. When it sounds like it’s too good to be true, don’t go there.

5. Invitations to Mafia Wars/Vampire Wars/Farmville, etc. No I don’t want to play these games! please stop inviting me! the difference between this, and having friendship invitations from people you don’t know, is at least when you reject them, they don’t add you again, but invitations for these games… keep on coming!

6. Spam e-mails. Dear Mr. Robert Mombazi from wherever you are. No, I do not want to send you any money, thank you. I don’t care if you think this is God’s will. However, my inbox folder is smart enough to reject your email and stores it in the spam folder instead, because your email is really unimportant.

7. Sending big-sized e-mails. When you’re sending e-mails which are megabytes big, please you http://www.yousendit.com instead. That way you’re not going to crash someone else’s computer.

8. Child Pornography. Enough said.

9. Sexual Predators. There are a lot of people out there who create fake accounts with fake photographs, fake statuses, fake names, create a whole new fake life to lure their targets, asks their ‘targets’ to meet up with them, then they rape, and possibly kill. Please be careful with people who you get to know online. Don’t give away too much information.

10. BIG small BIG small numbers symbol BIG small. sEriOuzLy, wRiTinGs LiK3 Th3$e R soooo ANNOYING!

Yeah so that’s my list of the most annoying things people do online.. 🙂