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Corruption Starts at an Early Age…

5 Mar

In Indonesia, corruption is a major problem. People are busy trying to find an effective solution to stop corruption in the “higher level” such as in the government or in big companies. However, not many people realise that corruption starts from an early age due to lack of education from the environment or within the family.

My mother remembered that once she saw a young boy, about 8 years old, riding a motorcycle – without his helmet on, and when the police stopped him, he quickly grabbed some money to bribe the policeman. What went through my mother’s mind were two things = why did his parents let him drive that motorcycle – without a helmet, and who taught him to bribe at such an early age?

Cheating at school is also something that could lead to corruption. So it’s not only in the government or in big companies. Even having a fake drivers licence is a form of cheating which is similar to corruption. If Indonesia wants to stop corruption, we should stop just looking from the top, but start concentrating on problems at the bottom as well. We should look into our bad habits. Now, corruption is a part of our culture. It is that bad. Please don’t teach children how to cheat, teach them how to work hard, teach them how to do their work properly. No matter how much of a small deal we cheat, it can lead to behaviour which can disadvantage so many other people.

Alexia

Your Child Doesn’t Need to Get A+ For Everything..

6 Jan

You HAVE to be at the top of the class!!

I’m not a parent. I’m still young and I don’t have a child, so maybe a lot of parents out there might be annoyed by this post. But I just want to express my opinions. Ever since I was young, I’ve always met parents who force their children to get the highest marks at school. They don’t care how, their children needs to be at the top of the class. There is nothing wrong with parents wanting their children to get the best, but it’s not good to force them to do things that is beyond their abilities.

I’ve been lucky to have parents who never forced me to be at the top of the class. They only motivated me to do the best I could. If I could only get 70% for Information Technology, and I’ve already tried my best, they wouldn’t get angry. Every child has their own potential and ability. Even though my mathematics wasn’t that great, I had good marks for my history, social studies and art subjects, because that’s where my abilities are.

It’s even worse when parents compare their children to other children. “Why can’t you be like this kid, they got an A for this subject”. Big NO NO. Please remember that they have their own talents and potential. Parents who force their children to take the parent’s choice of university course are also annoying. Some parents prefer their children to take law, medicine, engineering (prestigious courses which creates more potential to earn more money) when their children wants to study photography, anthropology or literature. However there are also parents out there who know their children’s potential better than their children do.

The point is, motivate your children to do their best, but don’t force them to do things beyond their own ability. They’d be too overwhelmed. They don’t need to get A+ for everything. There has to be a balance between study and play. Find your child’s potential, and let them grow 🙂

Alexia.